Prachi

Starting to communicate that I am having a bad brain day, to my colleagues, partners, friends was a game changer.
It made me
1. Acknowledge that I was having a bad brain day. That I wasn’t just being lazy, moody or hungry.
2. Give myself permission to have bad brain days. Know that it doesn’t make me weak, unreliable or a liability to have bad brain days.
3. Be transparent. Manage energy and expectations.
4. See that there are good brain days too.

It’s one of the hardest things you’ll do. So if you can’t find the words, use this post.

Therapy is like exercising/ going to the gym.
Everyone should do it.

Reevaluate your career, education, marriage, partnership, economic, have-children-by, hair, skin, weight, dietary goals.

You don’t have to prove that you are better than / as good as / stronger than someone or that you are sick / suffering

You are not lazy, attention-seeking, over-sensitive, *insert gas lighting tool here*. You are sad, depressed, anxious, think about self harm. Acknowledge it. Listen to your body.

Most of us have been conditioned to suppress our “manageable” symptoms. Please take all of your ailments seriously.

Don’t do the polite laugh. No, you are not over reacting. Your trauma is not comic material for others. Don’t participate in the belittling of your reality and your suffering.

Don’t try to fit your feelings into shiny (neurotypical) words. Our languages are inept. And our feels are complicated. Just try to feel what you feel; sometimes even to celebrate it.

You are not
Crazy
Drama queen
Messed up
Loser
Weak
Over Sensitive
Cranky
Pagal
Nut Case
Possessed
Attention Seeker